The Psychology behind Female Jealousy

In order to understand female jealousy, we must first explore the psychology behind it. Jealousy is defined as the fear of losing something or someone that you value. This emotion can be triggered by a range of things, such as witnessing your partner interact with another person, receiving attention from other people, or even hearing about your partner’s past relationships. Some experts believe that jealousy is actually a protection mechanism designed to help us guard our relationships and preserve our feelings for the ones we love. So what specifically drives women to feel jealous? Let’s take a closer look.

  1. Emotional jealousy

Many studies have found that females place a greater emphasis on the emotional part of infidelity than the sexual aspect; it is this emotional infidelity that becomes the focus of female sexual jealousy. Buss et al. (1992) provided the most concrete evidence for females’ focus on emotional jealousy by presenting participants with situations in which they were asked to pick between a partner’s sexual unfaithfulness and a partner’s emotional unfaithfulness as the more unpleasant event. They discovered that more females than males identified a partner’s emotional infidelity as the most stressful incident. In addition to self-report measures, the researchers examined the participants’ physiological responses (heart rate and electrodermal activity) to the situations; women were also shown to be more physically distressed by the concept of their spouses committing emotional infidelity.

  1. Expression in females when they are jealous

2.1. Aggression

While most empirical research indicates that males are more prone to act aggressively in reaction to sexual jealousy, certain studies have revealed that females may also exhibit hostility and violence.

Women have reported that their imaginary sexual jealousy manifests as hatred and physical aggressiveness toward the male. It has been proposed that this is because women are more sympathetic to the “victim,” resulting in significant animosity toward the unfaithful male. However, it is unknown if these hypothetical reports will result in real-world actions. Furthermore, data on sexual assault continue to suggest that males, rather than women, are the primary offenders in partnerships.

On the other side, it has been proposed that because the woman finally chooses the mate, infidelity-related aggressiveness is aimed against the competing female. As a result, when a woman is in the presence of a potential competitor female, she is far more likely than a male peer to declare that her partner is “engaged” then go out of her way to improve her look in front of her husband.


2.2. Self-blamed

Following adultery, women are more prone to blame themselves and focus their sexual jealousy on their own relationships. Women are also more prone to have depressive symptoms as a result of adultery. Dijkstra and Buunk’s research provides evidence for the idea that in jealousy circumstances, women focus more on their own performance as a spouse (2002). According to this study, women’s envy derives more from comparing their own attributes to those of the rival than men’s. That is, the more envy particular rival features elicited, the higher the degree of social comparison, a personality trait related to the inclination to compare one’s characteristics with those of others.

  1. Understand your triggers

Jealousy in a relationship is often more about vulnerabilities than actions. You may be prone to jealous behavior if you’ve had painful experiences with past partners and this makes it so your current partner triggers might not seem as intense, but there’s no way for either person involved in the situation to fully understand what they’re going through until they have talked through their issues together- being mindful of one another’s emotions can help prevent any nasty blowouts later down the road!


Jealousy can be a difficult emotion to deal with, and it often has multiple causes. If you don’t feel attractive or confident on your own it’s going to be hard for the self-esteem of which we are made up as well. Other times people may have unrealistic expectations about relationships where they spend 100% time together leading them into feeling jealous over minor things that seem insignificant at first glance but lead down bad paths if not dealt with properly.

You’re jealous, aren’t you? You feel like your partner is spending too much time with other people and not enough quality one on ones. But are those feelings really there or are they just in your head because of all this negative thinking?! I encourage my clients to ask themselves if the feeling seems real before getting hung up on them! If it turns out that what was going through their mind had nothing at all do with reality then let go–acknowledge these thoughts for a minute though so we can consciously dismiss them later when needed

There have been many studies done about unhealthy jealous behaviors; here’s how YOU know yours is unhealthy.

  • Interception to your spouse’s phone or email
  • Making a mockery of your spouse
  • Assuming your spouse isn’t interested in you
  • Interrogating your spouse about their movements throughout the day 
  • Accusing your spouse of lying in the absence of proof
  1. How to use jealousy for good

In a relationship, jealousy may be a very genuine and fair reaction to your partner’s conduct. Keep in mind that in a good enough relationship, individuals have high expectations for how they will be treated. They anticipate being handled with consideration, love, affection, and respect. They want their mate to be trustworthy and faithful.

If the answer to the question “Is that so?” is yes, it’s critical to express your feelings to your partner before your jealously grows into bitterness. When bringing it up, use “I” statements rather than phrases like “you always” or “you never.” Discuss your views about the current scenario rather than making broad comments about your partner’s character. Say what you require, not what you do not require.

“I become concerned when I don’t know where you are or who you’re with while you’re out,” for example. I’d appreciate it if you could text me and let me know.”

The more you communicate, the better your relationship will be. Is there a particular connection that makes you uneasy? Are you encountering roadblocks, or has your partner’s behavior suddenly changed?

You and your spouse should be honest and transparent with each other regarding your friendships and professional ties. Transparency will make you feel safer. If you’re unsure about setting limits, ask yourself, “How would I feel if I heard my spouse having this type of talk with someone else?” If something causes pain, then a line has been crossed.

You and your spouse should be honest and transparent with each other regarding your friendships and professional ties. Transparency will make you feel safer. If you’re unsure about setting limits, ask yourself, “How would I feel if I heard my spouse having this type of talk with someone else?” If something causes pain, then a line has been crossed.

Show each other how much you appreciate each other by prioritizing your relationship over your career, coworkers, and friends. Every time you do anything like this, you establish trust.

You may utilize jealousy for good by recognizing what is causing your sentiments and embracing each other’s lovable flaws.

Conclusion paragraph: Female jealousy is a pervasive and often destructive force in the lives of many women. Yet despite its negative impact, female jealousy can also be a powerful tool for self-development and growth. In this article, we explore the psychology behind female jealousy to shed light on what it means to feel jealous when you’ve been betrayed by someone close or even when your partner has done nothing wrong at all. We hope that these insights will help readers better understand their own feelings, as well as those around them so they can work through any issues with greater understanding and compassion. If you have questions about how to deal with an instance of mild or intense envy in your life–whether it’s directed towards yourself or others–please don’t hesitate to reach contact with us.

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