Female rivalry is a huge problem in our society. It has caused many women to be competitive with one another, rather than supportive of each other. As the world becomes more and more globalized, the female rivalry will only worsen because of the lack of interaction between people from different cultures. Studies have shown that this type of competition can lead to anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, eating disorders, or even suicide. The blog post will go on to talk about the benefits of breaking female rivalry and how this leads up to a better relationship between women in both professional settings and at home.
The reasons for the female rivalry
Girls “are taught” to compete with each other from a young age.
From an early age, girls become the object of comparison by adults, whether intentionally or unintentionally. While boys are often compared with each other only in terms of weight, height, and more or less initial personality traits, girls are often compared a lot in terms of appearance, behavior, and personality. Types of standards of the perfect girl/woman. And once compared, of course, adults will put girls on the scale together, instead of comparing girls with boys fairly because, for many people, girls and boys have different standards. Therefore, girls grow up with daily comparisons between themselves with sisters, cousins, classmates, neighbors. Not only parents, grandparents, relatives in the family but even teachers often compare same-sex students with each other, especially girls with girls.
This way of “education” makes girls form a habit in their heads of always comparing and competing with other girls, feeling that they can only become better if they put other girls down.
People around and social networks compare girls with each other
Along with the wrong upbringing from an early age, people around the girls or on social media also constantly compare them, making girls always feel that it’s normal to compete and tease each other, even worthy of praise. Simple comparisons like that cause girls to pay closer attention to the body lines that make one girl stand out over another in the same outfit. Not to mention makeup, hairdo, skincare, teeth whitening, plastic surgery… things on a woman’s face or work are compared with them.
And today, it’s not too difficult to compare ourselves to others because social media has “helped” us do this. Almost everyone appears on a flashy, beautiful social network, showing off the most positive and new things in their life, making online “friends” feel heartbroken when they think about themselves. . Whether we like it or not, we will always feel that we are constantly comparing with other girls, with other wives, with other mothers… to see that we are not perfect, our lives are not yet perfect enough, and miserable just because there is another girl out there who seems to be living a better life than me. This makes them uncomfortable and jealous of those girls.
Human nature is hard to control natural emotions
Along with the effects of external factors, competition is also an internal factor, it is a natural human emotion, especially in women, who are often sensitive in their emotions. Their emotions are hard to control when comparisons take place every day in their lives. Natural emotional expressions are easily unleashed.
What should females do?
Improving your condition
What you need to do now is to “make” yourself someone who has no reason to be jealous because you are so happy with yourself. Here’s what to do:
- The first is more confidence. Write down all the things you love about yourself and your flaws. Work on addressing as many flaws as you can and you’ll start to feel better about yourself.
- One of the most common reasons for envy is materialism. Calculate your money, save to buy a few wardrobe essentials or furniture that can help you feel better about what you have.
- Finally, be yourself. While humans should inspire each other, don’t forget that you are a unique individual and never compare yourself to anyone else.
Doing your job well
You may be jealous of others because you can’t stand the very things you do every day. To avoid this, you should take pride in your work despite the hard work and pursue your interests. By being busy pursuing your goals and interests, you won’t have time to be jealous of what other people are doing.
- Do the things you love more. If you spend a lot of time wishing you were more like your friends, it could be because you haven’t done much that makes you proud of yourself. At this point, you can read more poetry, plays, and novels, or work on developing useful skills, such as knitting or fixing furniture. The more you do to improve yourself, the happier you will be just being yourself.
- Pursue a career. If you are jealous of other females because they dared to follow their dreams or jealous when someone else got a promotion, you should work harder or think about changing your career direction so that you can change your career path. do what you want.
- Set goals for yourself and pursue them. If you are successful with your goals, you will be proud of your abilities and will try to set other goals for yourself.
Thinking more freely
Thinking that you are a lucky person
When you are blinded by jealousy, you cannot see things objectively. You should remind yourself that you are very lucky to have drinking water, food, good health, even modern equipment. Here’s how you can follow:
- Understand how lucky you are compared to most of the other girls in the world. Maybe you’ve never had to deal with real hunger, you’re healthy and can go to the doctor easily, you have enough clothes to stay warm, and you don’t feel oppressed where you were born alive, but a lot of people are not so lucky!
- You have a lot of things that make other people jealous. Make a list of at least 20 things you have that every girl would love to have but don’t have like your sense of humor;
- Understand that whatever woman you’re envious of doesn’t have the perfect life you think it is. For example, you may be jealous of your friend’s wonderful love, but she may also wish that she was as loved and cared for by her parents as you are.
If you spend more time helping others, especially underprivileged girls, you will not only feel proud of yourself but also grateful and loved by them.
- Do volunteering. To get a better sense of your luck, you can join volunteer activities to help other girls learn English, teach them to read, or provide food and drink to poor women. Many people around you are in need and need, and when you see that, you will know how lucky you are.
- Help the women around you know. Understanding other people’s struggles will make you see that you’re not the only one who wants to improve your life.
Living more positive
Reflecting on your jealousy and improving yourself is the best way to solve the problem. In addition, you also need to understand that no matter what, you can’t be perfect because there will still be things you want to have.
- You won’t be able to get everything you want no matter how hard you try and there are other girls luckier than you. It’s important that you accept the truth and stop trying to own everything in the world.
- Have fun being yourself. Take time to have fun with yourself and really learn to love yourself. Spend time alone and appreciate the work you’re doing.
- Focus on your good qualities. While there are still a few things you lack, focus on the parts of your life that you love, such as good relationships or a great job.
Competitive psychology is a regular thing in life, especially for women because they are quite sensitive to emotions. This blog talks about why as well as what women should do to prevent jealousy and competition from each other. Read and learn from experiences to control yourself or advise other girls how to become a mature and perfect woman.